The first episode of “Wait, Is This a Date?” is formally away wherever you hear podcasts! Get in on the only Christina Tucker and me once we perform a significantly private video game of Fuck, U-Haul, Ghost and talk about the primary topic regarding the few days: trust individuals are towards You.
We laugh! We cry! We discover ourselves! (Okay do not cry because we are both planet signs with emotional walls, but we do have feelings.)
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SHOW NOTES
+ Christina mentions that she slid into my personal DMs about
this
Ocean’s 11
stay read
.
+ But we understood she really slid into my personal DMs much previously in response to this insta story of mine:
+ Here are some more enjoyable screenshots from that basic convo:
+ And discover when I required the woman telephone number:
+We recorded this episode a long time ago and I would wish to formally answer my very first FUG with fuck Jinkx, U-Haul with Symone, and ghost Carmen. (Sorry, Carmen, i really like you.)
+The
songs video clip
for Tx’ “sought after” with Alan Rickman that has been formative for Christina.
+A
enjoyable test
of Catherine Zeta Jones’ modern Instagram existence. Okay
listed here is another
.
+The quote we reference from
Detransition, Baby
:
“Jen had been demonstrably a genuine transsexual. Amy had never came across a trans girl personally, along with her fascination with Jen bordered on unpleasant. Examine the lady. She appears like a woman. She seems like a lady. Significantly more than that, Amy thought, she wanted some thing from Jen. Something like sexual interest, but shaded in different ways. Some thing nearer to the thrill she felt whenever a hollywood passed by. Of a nameless desiring toward that celeb. The abstract beckoning that stars exude. The gravitational pull of these fame that tugged at Amy to make certain that she believed stressed to get close, to be noticed, and be valued. To feel those celebrity eyes move without friction over the smooth surface of a clamoring fandom, then instantly capture upon her, end dead, and get back the woman gaze. That second of common identification, this is the best possible way to have your existence stamped appropriate, to transcend the privacy of mere enthusiast, of inconsequential gawker. Jen’s had been a noncelebrity celeb that Amy could feel. A pull that maybe
merely
she would feel. Amy held embracing see where inside the store Jen was.”
Christina:
It had been bantery and it’s as you and I both find banter to-be, or even the greatest thing â really, no, we just believe it is to be the hottest thing.
Drew:
Certainly 100%.
Christina:
I think we just believe it is becoming the latest thing. And I believe because we got along very well, we obviously decrease into most banter, which for us, once more, results in hot, cool, matchmaking, flirting vibes.
Theme track plays
Drew:
Hi, I’m Drew.
Christina:
Hi, I’m Christina.
Drew:
And this is,
Hold Off, Is This A Night Out Together?
Christina:
An Autostraddle podcast, dedicated to the question: delay, is this go out?
Drew:
Will it be?
Christina:
Well, maybe is in reality our very own work to find that down and inform the audience?
Drew:
Cool. It really is very early. We will observe how we think by the end.
Christina:
Early days, yeah.
Drew:
Cool.
Christina:
Can we should inform the individuals exactly who our company is or will we need just form of leave them in dubious dirt?
Drew:
I’m able to get initially.
Christina:
Yeah. Tell me who you really are. I’d like to understand.
Drew:
Yeah. I am Drew Gregory, i am a writer and filmmaker and gay and trans, certainly not in this purchase. I authored for Autostraddle since autumn of 2018. I write plenty about flicks and television, but also lots about matchmaking, specifically internet dating as a trans lady in lesbian neighborhood. As well as the vast majority of motion pictures I compose are about trans lesbians, so an actual through range indeed there. Oh, just in case it wasn’t obvious, I like dating. And most that, I like speaing frankly about matchmaking.
Christina:
It’s one of my personal favorite things about you, how much you merely like to date and discuss it and do all of the. The things I’m likely to contact nonsense, merely typically.
Drew:
Sure.
Christina:
I Am Christina Tucker. I am in addition an author at Autostraddle. I am indeed there since 2019. I will be a podcaster and writer, You will find made an appearance on different podcasts. I co-host a podcast called
Unfriendly Ebony Hotties
about intersection of race and better ed and pop tradition. Im variety of just online, like a loud internet queer is actually the way I would often explain myself personally. I, unlike Drew, dislike dating and so our very own podcast was given birth to, I would say. Do you really say Drew?
Drew:
Yeah. I believe that has been a fairly regular thing throughout our friendship usually it is one of my personal favorite topics plus one of your least favored subjects. I think there is a large number of steps we’re very similar, but that’s the manner by which we are maybe not similar. We also, we are able to provide this framework but, we didn’t truly know both prior to the pandemic. So you happened to be employed at Autostraddle autumn of 2019, whilst stated, and I realized people because of that. However just like the first week of the pandemic, for reasons uknown we began talking during the DMs. I don’t remember which of us slid into whoever DMs. Do you really bear in mind?
Christina:
I want to state, I slid in the DMs since you had been doing that dining table read of
Ocean’s 11.
And I also had been like, “Is
Ocean’s 11
top flick ever made? Discuss.” And in addition we happened to be both love, “Yeah, it really is.” And types of following that we really went.
Drew:
Yeah. Immediately after which we simply happened to be messaging a lot. Immediately after which in some way, well, eventually I managed to get the contact number, then rapidly into having your phone number we began delivering voice memos versus text messages.
Drew, in voice memo:
So I’m just gonna inform you the emotions that i’ve, and after that you can go after that and react to myself, perhaps not respond to me personally, whatever. It is myself being drive and obvious.
Drew:
And this ended up being kind of the friendship for any 12 months ended up being all of us only for durations, like all time, sending extended vocals memos back-and-forth, which we might constantly joke had been like a podcast. And someday early in the day this season I happened to be really stoned and delivered you a voice memo which was like, “what if we actually had a podcast?” As well as the then early morning, unlike, In my opinion, every other time I delivered you a top voice memo, you had been like, “that’s in fact a good idea.”
Christina:
Yeah. Normally, because Drew and that I survive reverse coasts, I-go to sleep and that I awake to like 1 or 2 voice memos from Drew, sometimes large, occasionally not. And in most cases we tune in to them when I’m taken from a slumber. And that I say, “that is my pal received. She actually is having an experience that i did not encounter because I’m over right here asleep.” And we types of simply move ahead with my day, answer whenever I feel like it, if it’s necessary. Sometimes they’re just, “this will be anything I happened to be contemplating.” But this one, I said, “No, that that friend of my own is actually onto some thing. She is had gotten a real idea going on so we is carrying this out.” And then right here we’re. I’m really thrilled though. I think it’s going to be great. I think we’re actually enjoyable. I do believe we are fun to speak with. And I think all of us dealing with online dating will likely be at least very interesting for those to hear.
Drew:
I would say-so. We have some an ego on me personally. I’m a Leo rising and a Capricorn sun, thus. But I do frequently think like, might deliver myself a voice memo and this refers ton’t also about myself, it’s not about my personal pride. It’s about merely considering you’re great. Being want, “Oh my personal Jesus, this is exactly great. And I also want other folks happened to be hearing this extremely funny thing Christina ended up being saying.” And today you-all can!
Christina:
Well, I’m also a Leo rising. So that really works away really. We understand each other very well, nevertheless, beautiful listeners, do not know all of us. So we’re going to do slightly icebreaker to get knowing all of us, learn all of our vibe, learn, i suppose that which we’re into dating smart, so you’re able to tune in to this podcast and become updated about all of our flavor. Usually proper?
Drew:
That feels really precise. I really like the idea that a game of, “shag, U-Haul, Ghost” is going to be that showing in regards to our listeners. Nevertheless know what? I believe it’ll. In my opinion who you wish screw and U-Haul and ghost with are telling. I think.
Christina:
Yeah, In my opinion thus too.
Drew:
I really could begin.
Christina:
I do believe you’re begin.
Drew:
Okay.
Christina:
Yeah. You are really planning to start since you dropped a little clue the other day if you ask me that you are currently cackling with delight as you happened to be putting these together. Thus I need to see everything’ve done, ma’am.
Drew:
I recently was like, impress, I really learn Christina very well. Oh, additional thing folks should know about is we have never ever satisfied.
Christina:
Oh, appropriate.!
Drew:
Physically.
Christina:
Yeah, no, we survive contrary coasts and I also have no idea once you learn, but we have been residing on a damn, Paul Blart shopping mall policeman, so we cannot, we’ven’t met.
Drew:
However, i understand you very well. Therefore the basic the one that i do want to begin with is similar to real important. Like i am considering decades very long, Christina’s really love as soon as we came across and Christina’s love today. So that your three options are Allison Janney.
Allison Janney:
That’s my personal little guy. You my personal little man? That is my personal sixth partner right there. The very best of them.
Drew:
Michelle Gomez.
Michelle Gomez:
I Am Missy. Welcome to heaven.
Drew:
And Jennifer Aniston.
Jennifer Aniston:
Hello Brad. You understand how cute? I always believed you had been.
Christina:
This will be a challenge. In fact, it is not that tough. I’m going to have to ghost Jen. I like Jen. In my opinion the woman tasks are incredible. We have been both bottoms so there’s very little that will take place indeed there. And that I think that’s great. I think that is gorgeous, but that is just not going to be what will happen. Clearly, bang, it is going to need to be Michelle Gomez. She actually is a small Scottish lunatic. Her birth information is actually nuts. Large amount of Scorpio inside, some Sag. That will be a fun time. Day to day, i am a tourist. That isn’t attending work out for us. So weare going to have one merely fun night, maybe a weekend, who are able to say, I am not sure what the variables of the fuck are. It’ll be fun immediately after which she’s going to stop and carry out whatever she does. And baby Alice and that I will just positively U-Haul, only U-Haul out. We are going to have a very good time. I know our beginning charts are pretty suitable and I also believe’s good. Therefore I thought that would end up being tough therefore was actually actually quite easy and maybeâ¦
Drew:
Great. I love that. The reality that you might bring in certain proof about these people, i do believe is truly stunning, and that I’m really pleased for your family and Alison, that it is in performers.
Christina:
Thank you so much. Thank you much. Obtainable, i desired going to three things that I know you like. Therefore first we’re carrying out a drag competition edition.
Drew:
Great.
Christina:
We’re doing Symone.
Symone:
Don’t allow the smooth-face trick you baby.
Christina:
We’re saying Jinkx.
Jinkx:
Im Seattle’s premier Jewish narcoleptic pull king.
Christina:
So we’re saying, Carmen Carrera.
Carmen:
Raja’s acquiring naked. I am like, this can be probably going to be hot because Carmen is nudity and now wewill put down now.
Drew:
Ooh. Okay. See, I’m terrible at hypothetical video games because i believe through all of them for hours. We don’t have hrs, and so I’m gonna just be sure to repeat this effectively. In my opinion i must ghost Carmen.
Christina:
In my opinion you are doing also. Which was my personal idea. Butâ
Drew:
I detest to accomplish this.
Christina:
You hate observe it.
Drew:
I’m actually split between, I’m not sure. Okay, and so I do know for sure that Symone’s also a Capricorn, Jinkx is a Virgo. I actually never outdated another Capricorn or a Virgo. I believe, okay. It really is just as if the stakes tend to be as high as I’m in fact planning U-Haul with this particular person.
Christina:
No. It is like, you are going to leave of your apartment and discover they on the road becoming like, “Well, we heard that which you selected.” I understand that is what’s happening in your thoughts right now.
Drew:
I think that i will bang Symone and U-Haul with Jinkx. And my personal reason behind which that i believe that centered on where they may be at inside their resides, In my opinion Symone is actually, predicated on this current period of pull competition, remains functioning through some things and maybe is not ready for this standard of a relationship, that’s so mean for me to state, but I believe like Jinkx has already been, In my opinion just adopted interested. So within my view, if she actually is prepared to get engaged, very.
Christina:
I like that you are taking this real world power involved with it as though me publicly phoning Jennifer Anderson a base is like, technology reality.
Drew:
You might also flip that though and claim that i ought to U-Haul with Symone. I truly don’t know if Symone’s solitary, but Jinkx isn’t readily available for a committed commitment. Anyways, these are my personal views. Should we progress?
Christina:
Yeah. This is actually a very a valuable thing for audience knowing. This is actually the degree that Drewshould get every thing we discuss. Therefore merely get yourself prepared for that. She’s prepared. I am ready. Right here we get.
Drew:
Okay. Therefore then i needed to accomplish a male edition because a thing that is actually fun is that I know that despite you determining as a lesbian, there can be a specific brand of man that you’re attracted to.
Christina:
Yeah, its terrible.
Drew:
Therefore the three options are, Roy on
Ted Lasso
as played by Brett Goldstein.
Roy:
Jesus, Mary, and fuck face Joseph, vision on the man you are marking, come on!
Drew:
Corey Ellison on
The Day Show
as starred by Billy Crudup.
Corey:
If he desires shoot me, he’s going to fucking fire me personally. I do not require this work. The actual only real reason I’m doing it is simply because its fun. I’m very, excellent at it. And it’s easier to get put when you’re applied.
Drew:
And Alan Rickman within the Texas music video, “In Demand,” and that is an extremely specific thing i am aware about Christina, that she loves that songs movie and loves Alan Rickman inside.
Christina:
I am⦠genuinely, this is so much harder compared to very first one. I’m needs to feel just like I have to perform a rather Drew-level, in-depth, strong dive. I eventually got to reorganize me. Okay. Okay. So the thing is actually, Alan Rickman is lifeless, thus I perform feel i need to ghost on him, regrettably, because the guy ghosted on myself first â just as much as that music movie had been formative for my personal sexuality, we’re going to include a hyperlink in our program notes to that songs video clip, it really is seriously vital, everybody else view it. There is an instant at a gas section, anyway. He could be a ghost. Thus I will therefore ghost him. Today, Roy and Corey, that is tough. Corey does not have countless intimate electricity in my experience as starred by Billy on
The Morning Show.
He’s merely kind of like a turmoil demon, and that’s fun, but I am not sure, gender smart, if everything’s going on here for him. It does not really feel like something which’s on their radar actually. Therefore I can be tempted to marry Corey and just have a night of love with Roy Kent, immediately after which move on. Leave him to Keeley as he deserves, and move on with Cory where he’s working a network of some type. Yeah. I believe that’s the response. I do believe its ghost Alan Rickman, whom, becoming obvious, ghosted myself initially. Fuck Corey Ellison. Nope. Hold off, was actually that a Freudian slide? Tough to express. No, it wasn’t. I recently forgot. Fuck Roy Kent. Marry Cory Ellison. Wow. I’m sweating. That has been frustrating. That was really hard. Alright. For your needs, obviously, I experienced to do an actor’s version considering who you really are as someone. Therefore we’ve had gotten Lola Rodriguez.
Lola Rodriguez:
[Speaking in Spanish]
Christina:
Indya Moore.
Indya Moore:
It really is more tricky to exist than it is to walk contained in this outfit.
Christina:
And Jamie Clayton.
Jamie Clayton:
Oh, seriously. Girls must love that wall you’ve built. But really, i am stoked you are right here. If only the entire club was actually full of girls like all of us.
Drew:
Wow. Okay.
Christina:
As it looks like, I know you also, buddy.
Drew:
I truly like the commitment to trans stars, also.
Christina:
Yeah, puppy. Once again, I say I’m sure you.
Drew:
Okay. It is thus funny when it’s queer actors, trans stars, where i am want, “i’ll satisfy you at an event sooner or later and I’m attending be sorry for whatever I state in regards to you on the internet.” My goal is to ghost Jamie because she’s right.
Christina:
Fair enough.
Drew:
So that as very much like i really like⦠Really don’t fall for cis direct ladies, but I do be seduced by trans straight girls. And I also think that is my correct as a gay trans woman.
Christina:
Yeah. Truly.
Drew:
But I’m still browsing ghost Jamie because I think it’s simply healthier personally never to try to do that. I believe i will screw Lola Rodriguez because I really don’t actually understand if⦠I’m not sure simply how much English she talks and I dont speak Spanish. Therefore I believe⦠I mean, if we U-Hauled, i do believe we might find out which could possibly be fantastic.
Christina:
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